The paradox of limitations

I am not the biggest fan of limitation. I do not really like when something is limiting me whether it is my body, mental capacity, financial conditions, job or life conditions in general. I was considering limits as something that disabling me from doing whatever I want, but recently I started to notice that limitations can in some cases enable me to experience things that are not possible, if we have unlimited options available. At the end everything is finite.
Dark side of unlimited options:
Being paralysed
This year I had plenty of time on my hands and I had the possibility to do what every I wanted, but the plenitude of choices was sometimes very paralysing. I could do whenever I wanted whenever I wanted. I was catching myself on no doing anything, because I was not able to choose what to do next.
Feeling anxious
It was happening to me that I was feeling overwhelmed by the ocean of possibilities and was experiencing a lot of anxiety, whether I am doing right thing right now. I could have been doing something more important or funnier at this particular moment. I was unable to be really calm and relaxed.
Emotional cost
I like to train, but very often I face the problem, that I do not know exactly what to focus on, because I know too many exercise and I want to do them all, but my time in gym is limited. Making a decision is very frequently, very costly emotionally.
Lack of depth:
This one is straight forward related to the focus. I was not able to progress in some areas of life, when, if you want to do to many things at the same time. At the end we have finite time and energy resources to invest during the day.
Brights sides of limitations:
Focus
I have heard somewhere that focus is lack of distractions. I had thought it was only a capacity to resist things that happen around you and it is true when you are not able to eliminate distracting thing. Now, I notice that focus is also an art of eliminating choices. The less options we have the more focus we gain.
Happiness & Tranquility
I also think that when you have less choices you are happier, because we reduce feeling of being paralysed, anxiety and emotion cost that I mentioned above. Less of bad staff is good.
Conclusion:
I think it is good to have options and I am happy that I live in the times when we have so many options available, but I need to lear how to accept my limitation as well as set some limits to myself, if I want to further develop as a human being and experience things that I desire, but were not able to do it because they require limitations.



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